Wife wanting a divorce while I'm deployed

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The title says it all. We had some issues, only been married 6 months, been together over a year. She said she wanted a divorce last month but we talked it out and laid out a plan to fix our problems and everything seemed great until on Sunday she emailed me again. We talked on the phone last night and she says she doesn't miss me, doesn't feel the same anymore, blah blah blah. Anyways, just trying to do damage control right now and minimize what she might be able to get from me financially. I make significantly more than her being a military officer. I have a conference call today with the military lawyer to talk strategy and see what my options are. Just sucks she does this to me while I'm deployed with 6 months to go and the week before Christmas.
 
Damn dude that totally sucks!!! If ya need anything or just want to vent let me know!
 
I've been through it too, let her go. As harsh as that sounds if you stay together there will always be problems. Move on with your life as best you can, when the deal is done if there are no kids then break all ties with her. Life will go on, and life will get better.

I feel for you, it always sucks to go through this, but in the end you will be happier.
 
Your to far away for to long! girls need ya close . Mostly high maintenance. They do alot once you're there to keep you happy. they have a gap that needs filling regular and it is to far off the ground to eat grass. Lots if fish in the sea. the older they get the more baggage they have. In the longrun, Vipers are cheaper and need alot less attention!! :D
 
Sorry pos in my opinion. You'll be better of without her
 
Totally sucks and sorry to hear bro. Went thru it a couple years ago myself. Literally she did the same thing except I was always there for her. 8 years and a 5 year old later, she shut me off like a switch and claimed fell outta love. Biggest crock of shit ever!
 
So u got married with her after knowing her only 6 months or 1 year?
Why so soon?
 
Alberta-SRT said:
I've been through it too, let her go. As harsh as that sounds if you stay together there will always be problems. Move on with your life as best you can, when the deal is done if there are no kids then break all ties with her. Life will go on, and life will get better.

I feel for you, it always sucks to go through this, but in the end you will be happier.
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I concur. Went through this 2 weeks before Christmas after 10 years of marriage and then spent close to a year trying make it work. Let it go, found the Love of my life and have been together 32 years and counting.
 
SergioL. said:
So u got married with her after knowing her only 6 months or 1 year?
Why so soon?
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i got married a year after alisha and i met... we just had our 7 year anniversary in october...

but sucks bro... at least could have waited until after the holidays or at the very least waited until you got back... that's shitty...
 
Sorry bro! I've never been married but a big part of a devorce... So saying that let her go as quick as possible.
 
Sorry to hear about this. It SUCKS plain and simple. As a guy that's been married for 18 years and counting do yourself a big favor........

Get an attorney first and foremost. Ask her if she is willing to get counseling for the both of you first. Ask her if there is anything you can do to work out the problems before you jump on the Divorce train. See if you can get her to honestly tell you why she wants a divorce. Keep record of your conversations with her. Do not get angry with her at all. Keep your posture. Do everything possible to work with her thru this time frame. It will all pay off if you have to go thru with the divorce later in the eyes of the Judge.
 
Sorry about everything man.. your over there and she wants to take u through that... bullshit good luck man
 
Good luck, sorry to hear about the situation.

I've had a couple of AD friends that have gone through divorce and have had to retain civilian lawyers as marriage is a civil union and not one where ADC will have much use. Still a good idea to contact them though.

I can't imagine what it's like to have to go through this, especially while deployed. Keep your head up.
 
First of all, Be Safe out there. Distractions are the worst thing when deployed. This is where you really need to take and put yourself first.
 
sorry to hear , but...married after 6 months is not that bright dude...:confused::dontknow:
 
The old saying is still true ,If you love someone set them free if its ment to be they will come back ,if they don't hunt that witch down with a pair of rusty channel locks and a dull rusty butchers knife,and peel her like a grape ,,
Sometimes you get the bear ,sometimes the bear gets you
 
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