Wife wanting a divorce while I'm deployed

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  1. SergioL.

    SergioL. Full Access Member

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    I agree. I have been with the girlfriend for 4 years and there are some PROBLEMS going on right now. I am very glad I haven't married her.
     
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    Going through it myself right now, hopefully there aren't any kids involved, and if there isn't, cut her loose and move on. I'm in the USAF and the best thing about the military in my opinion is getting to meet new people and traveling the world. Once you get back from downrange, get stationed overseas if your not already, and travel and enjoy yourself...the right one will come along when ready. Personally I fought and fought and fought to keep us together, and it was never enough, so I just said I had it and I'm already feeling better. Now I can focus on MY dreams and goals instead of trying to make sure HERS became reality (while my opportunities were slipping by) .... Be safe down there and take this time to re-evaluate your personal situation and make plans to accomplish your goals and enjoy the things that make you and only you happy. Good luck brother
     
  3. CarolinaSRT10

    CarolinaSRT10 New Member Supporting Member

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    Please see what I presented to you in the science or religion thread.

    I'm not trying to coerce you into anything,,,but simply trying to make your life better.

    Forgive her for being an ass.

    Forgive her for being too needy.

    Understand that you being away is the reason for the problem...

    Give her the benefit of the doubt. If she is so wrong you will come out the winner anyway.

    Understand that you are apparently the smarter of you two, and it's going to be up yo you to fix this.

    If you want her, keep her.

    If you don't want her, then do what you must to improve your life and lifestyle.

    I wish you the best, and hate you have to go through this.

    Thank you for your service, and may you experience your just rewards.

    Lee
     
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    ViperJeff Misanthrope Staff Member Administrator Supporting Member

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    Guys, it's pretty much different for everyone. Knew my bride for 8 months before we got married, been married to her for 33 years... and that included year long military deployments, TDY,s and all the BS
     
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    Butt Jeff you don't count your hung like an Arabian race horse!!!!!:)
     
  6. SergioL.

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    The OP has not said anything about her being needy. I am sure she knew he would be away before they got married.

    OP, has she cheated or met somebody? Is she "confused?"
     
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    SrtBrad Michel Productions

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    She is still his wife I have seen people get banned for sayin less then this
    But nothing will happen to you because your a minority. Gay and mexican
     
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    Sometimes, when you meet a beautiful woman, you need to understand she is used to instant gratification.

    Lee
     
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    i feel for you man, cant say I been through a divorce but I did just get my ass handed to me by my recent ex. kinda the same song and dance with the distance.

    keep in mind you aint alone bud.
     
  10. SergioL.

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    I agree that you are not alone. IMO, if distance is the problem then she is not wife material. To me a distance problen means she REALLY needs a mans affection and is likely to cheat. What if you went to jail, what if you had to go work out of town, what if etc...
     
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    that's exactly what happened to me. she got lonely and found someone else closer to home.
     
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    Here is a picture of my x-girlfriends ass. She left me 2 years ago because I offered to support her while she got an education. Turns out she was a gold digger who wanted the good life. Glad it didn't work out, I am much happier in Colorado where there are a million beautiful women.

    [​IMG]
     
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    I wanna hear from the OP....

    Please.

    Lee
     
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    No that's me .:D
     
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    BlackMamba50, you should have known bro. The tramp stamp doesn't lie :D
     
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    I'm happy as hell my first wife left me now. I found a better woman and i'm happier then I have ever been. And you will also man, keep your head up.
     
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    Shitty deal brother, my wife is currently in Cuba with her boyfriend. She left last Sunday and I don't even know when she's coming back.

    I know how it feels and I couldn't imagine being deployed and having to deal with the bullshit.

    I met my wife and 13 months later we were married, never again will I ever do that. The euphoria of a new relationship and falling in love blinds people. I was one of them.

    Six years and three kids later I get to start over. Women suck balls, but like they say it takes two to make it work. I can't say I was even close to perfect, but I sure as shit learnt a lot about myself and what I will and wont do in the future.

    Good luck in everything that is to come.
     
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    If she is willing to just leave you like that u dont need her man imagine if ur got hurt and say on life support she would leave u when you need her the most i've seen that happen first hand she left him and when she found out he passed away she came back thinking she was getting paid and our c.o. Knew what had happened and gave his sgli to his mom he made sure she didnt get a cent from him.
     
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    Brutal man, some are so shallow.
     
  20. REPOMAN1

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    This is so crazy reading all this i was with my wife for 8 years we got married 7 months ago and are now in divorce court but we are both trying to work things out knowing it will never work out . I went to talk to her tonight and she spit in my face and threw a soda bottle at me and hit me in the face with it . Im done after that . Its just cool that you guys are telling stories about moving on and being happy . It would be easy for me but i have 2 daughters 3 and 6 . so we will see what happens .