Got truck back today from the second transmission shop....they fixed it for $140 labor cost only! It was a bad relay, #59 in the fuse box for the transmission!
They swapped the wiper relay and the transmission relay, he said it ran and shifted fine then, the wipers would only work on the low speed setting, so they knew then it was definitely the relay bad. They then swapped out the bad relay in the wiper position with the one for the fog lights....now wipers work fine and fog lights work fine because the fog lights only utilize one relay circuit, either they are on or they are off...and that must be the good working circuit in that relay..the wipers and the transmission utilize 2 circuits in the relay.
They could have easily said yeah it needed a rebuild and charged me for it, but good honest shop...that is hard to come by these days!
Drove it home 25 miles and all is good with it!!