I actually planned on helping them except I was working out of town and told her I would when I got home and she got real snotty with me ,when I asked what it was for she told me none of my business . If you are going to bum $5000 bucks from me I kind of think I have a reason to ask .
Since I did not give it up our relationship has never been very close .A comment was made to another family member that I was tight with my money .Kind of pissed me off .But we were raised in an entirely different environment .Even though we were not rich or real poor my parents made me work and save for everything I got .
Not meaning to preach my friend (and yes, there is a side to you I think I could really get to like if I knew you better---hence the word friend) but take a look at Luke 6:27-36. My bride says I will die broke as I give way too generously to those in need. Am I telling you to do this----absolutely not. Your relatives attitude would be very hard to want to help. My problem is I do not love money but people. Believe it or not there are those on this forum that I pray for everyday.
I would not put my standards on others, just telling you what I would do. Not telling you that withholding your hard earned money is wrong. Each of us has to do what our conscious dictates. Sounds like you are a giving person, just have a few conditions. Sadly that is most of us, we have a lot of conditions on our giving and that is the reason when someone asks I do not ask what they are wanting the money for. There lifestyle pretty well tells me what they will use the money for and no to drugs and booze, they do not qualify for charity. Kids must not be neglected either. And no, I do not go around throwing my money around to everyone that asks. I just try to do unto others as I want them to do unto me. :dontknow:
