We are here for you Dale.
Sorry I have been missing...
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tiny brother after speaking with you yesterday i personally think one thing is in order, and I think it may help you just a bit.tinygiants said:
bring the truck home, put it in the garage, cover it up, bring the engine home, cover it up..
spend tons more time relaxing and with your darling daughter.
forget about the truck until fall, enjoy the summer and your daughter bud.
i think the truck is strianing you way too much,
my offer to help you anyway I can is indefinite as long as I have the contacts bud.
and anytime you need to yell.........................just call......we can do it together
Tony,
You may be right about the truck. I am over it already.
My little poor me was just a reaction to multiple emotional let downs. I was set to come home and claim my second treatment, now I have to wait till next week. All will be good, but now my treatment schedule will interfere with some other social events I have planned (daughter visitation schedule will be on some sick feeling days). But it is what it is. My head is back up, and I am thinking about getting on my bike tonight.
You may be right about the truck. I am over it already.
My little poor me was just a reaction to multiple emotional let downs. I was set to come home and claim my second treatment, now I have to wait till next week. All will be good, but now my treatment schedule will interfere with some other social events I have planned (daughter visitation schedule will be on some sick feeling days). But it is what it is. My head is back up, and I am thinking about getting on my bike tonight.
wish i was closer...we could take a ride...(i won't tell)
hang in there, dale...every day with your eyes open is a good day!
hang in there, dale...every day with your eyes open is a good day!
I think Tony's advice is right on!
Is there any way that you can reschedule your time with your daughter? Is your ex willing to help in that way?
In the meantime the thoughts and prayers have not stopped!
Hang tough man!
Is there any way that you can reschedule your time with your daughter? Is your ex willing to help in that way?
In the meantime the thoughts and prayers have not stopped!
Hang tough man!
I was able to enjoy the beautiful weather today with my daughter. We went to the park and had subway for dinner. It was well worth the treatment delay to be able to have a dinner like that.
It looks like my mom will fly in next week and be here for the treatment aftermath.
It looks like my mom will fly in next week and be here for the treatment aftermath.
Praying for you buddy! Hope it goes well. Keep us updated.
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Hang in there, Dale - your daughter deserves your time more than your truck does .......
Hang in there tough guy. Thoughts and prayers sent.
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Hang in there Dale, and give your daughter a great big hug.
Bill.
Bill.
My daughter is my angel. The truck has never competed for her time. My schedule with her trumps everything. I have repeatedly told her she is my medicine, and she makes me feel better. Tonight, she told her mom that she wanted to be there after daddy gets his shot (it is what we are calling my chemo treatment) so she can snuggle with me to make me feel better. It made me cry. With all that i have experienced in the last few years, I can honestly say, she is the only reason I am alive. Without her, I would have lost my will to live.
I just did an hour on my bike.
I just did an hour on my bike.
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I hope that everything is going great and that if you need anything from us you will not hesitate to ask. Prayers for you
Physically I have had a pretty good couple of days. There are only slight reminders that I am doing things to my body that are not normal, but they have not kept me from being a part of society. I have been able to exercise (moderation), eat (even gained weight - 2 lbs heavier than pre treatment), and go to a nice bon fire.
Emotionally last night was tuff. In a earlier post, I told how Maya (my daughter) was my medicine. She has really stepped up and taken that bond to heart. That alone made me cry tears of joy and love. But her mom has pointed out a concern about that. If things do not go to plan, the simplicity of Maya being my medicine sets her up for a burden that is not fair. After careful thought I agree with my ex on this. So I decided that I have to separate the event into distinguishable parts. I have started to teach my 4yo that daddy is sick with cancer. No real details are part of this, it is more just giving my problem a name. I am teaching her that the Dr. gives daddy shots (chemo), and they are both needed and make me feel bad. The final part is the Maya Medicine. MY Maya Medicine makes my heart feel better and makes me smile no matter how bad the shots are or how the cancer is. My goal was to provide separation. We will review this with mom tonight, so she can also help teach her where her role comes in.
I thought it would be simple to tell this to her. Heck I talk to coworkers that have heard the rumors all the time, and I have no problem with it. I mean it is a beatable form, and the odds are fairly good. But with her, there is the strongest bond I have on this earth. With her I was facing the possibility of what I could leave behind in my wake. It was tough to look her in the eye and say Cancer. The tears kept flowing from the corners of my eyes. She was so sweet, that she wiped them for daddy. She even gave me her sweater to use for my eyes.
All this in no way changes my emotional stand to fight. But I have had to do some serious soul searching about my role. It seems that cancer is indiscriminate. In the book I am reading by Lance Armstrong, they wrote a few lines that resonate loudly. To Paraphrase: Cancer has been beaten by some folks with no fight in them. Then there are others who are very strong and well supported that end up losing even with good odds. So I have to accept the fact that some of my fight is not up to me. The inner question is how am I going to react? I am a fighter, and I am a believer in the fact that no one really knows the extent of what we can do with our own minds. So I am going to keep doing my part. Even if things are tuff, I will not give up. Just because it is indiscriminate, does not mean I will ever give up my right to resist its goals.
A piece of good news, my mom is flying in on Wednesday to help and visit. She is not going to be able to stay long this time, but she will be here for the hard part of this next treatment.
Thanks for all the support, thoughts, and prayers.
Emotionally last night was tuff. In a earlier post, I told how Maya (my daughter) was my medicine. She has really stepped up and taken that bond to heart. That alone made me cry tears of joy and love. But her mom has pointed out a concern about that. If things do not go to plan, the simplicity of Maya being my medicine sets her up for a burden that is not fair. After careful thought I agree with my ex on this. So I decided that I have to separate the event into distinguishable parts. I have started to teach my 4yo that daddy is sick with cancer. No real details are part of this, it is more just giving my problem a name. I am teaching her that the Dr. gives daddy shots (chemo), and they are both needed and make me feel bad. The final part is the Maya Medicine. MY Maya Medicine makes my heart feel better and makes me smile no matter how bad the shots are or how the cancer is. My goal was to provide separation. We will review this with mom tonight, so she can also help teach her where her role comes in.
I thought it would be simple to tell this to her. Heck I talk to coworkers that have heard the rumors all the time, and I have no problem with it. I mean it is a beatable form, and the odds are fairly good. But with her, there is the strongest bond I have on this earth. With her I was facing the possibility of what I could leave behind in my wake. It was tough to look her in the eye and say Cancer. The tears kept flowing from the corners of my eyes. She was so sweet, that she wiped them for daddy. She even gave me her sweater to use for my eyes.
All this in no way changes my emotional stand to fight. But I have had to do some serious soul searching about my role. It seems that cancer is indiscriminate. In the book I am reading by Lance Armstrong, they wrote a few lines that resonate loudly. To Paraphrase: Cancer has been beaten by some folks with no fight in them. Then there are others who are very strong and well supported that end up losing even with good odds. So I have to accept the fact that some of my fight is not up to me. The inner question is how am I going to react? I am a fighter, and I am a believer in the fact that no one really knows the extent of what we can do with our own minds. So I am going to keep doing my part. Even if things are tuff, I will not give up. Just because it is indiscriminate, does not mean I will ever give up my right to resist its goals.
A piece of good news, my mom is flying in on Wednesday to help and visit. She is not going to be able to stay long this time, but she will be here for the hard part of this next treatment.
Thanks for all the support, thoughts, and prayers.
Obviously your mind is not affected by the treatments! Great analysis, good conclusions...and wonderful that you and your ex are communicating so clearly!
Wow...I think I have something in my eye...gotta go.
Wow...I think I have something in my eye...gotta go.
Dale I missed this until now. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. You are obviously a strong willed man and I am confident you will make the best of this. We are all pulling strong for you.
Keep up the good fight Dale!!
Thoughts and Prayers continue from Florida!
Thoughts and Prayers continue from Florida!
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Dale you are in our thoughts and prayers. Keep up the good fight physically while we pray for your healing!
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Hang in there Dale. You will and courage are a real inspiration.
And I completely know what you mean about your daughter saving you. Mine saved me also in my time of need.
And I completely know what you mean about your daughter saving you. Mine saved me also in my time of need.
Begood
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Dale, you are an insperation to all of us, keep up the positive attitude.
Bill.
Bill.
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