That's really tough...
As if school isn't hard enough just learning new things, there has to be the added emotions from teenagers going through puberty to make it that much more complicated.
You hear about kids coming to school with guns and lashing out on people they crossed paths with that ridiculed them or just hated because, and in the process they take their own lives too - because once you cross that path, there is no way out... and the life you'd have to live afterward wouldn't be a life you'd want to live at all. In this regard, we serve our own justice.. by visioning the person responsible, suffer in many ways in our minds. But we forget... we should pity those people instead of hating them. They probably were faced with such horror and grew up in a dysfunctional home life and mind was desensitized to it, lying in the blackest depths of the abyss... and they felt they had no other way out either...
There's always people who struggle to make it in this world and those who get everything handed to them... clashing is inevitable. There is no right or wrong when it comes to being unique. Why try to fit in when you were born to stand out...
People always point at "different" because the people who may be different don't know how to deal with it themselves. Perhaps they feel they don't belong which the other peers can see through their body language and the way they present themselves, either through speech, fashion, popularity.. etc. So they see the weakness and take advantage of it. Just as young kids in the family would do. They'll push you to your limit to find out how far they can go until they get a reaction, and are taught to obey and listen.. respect... When you grow up into an adult (if you even make it that far) you realize you're going to talk, dress, befriend to whoever and whatever you want anyway! Too bad they didn't feel or know what they could have now, and apply it then. Not everyone is as willing...
Learning how actions create opposite and equal reactions growing up, can be escalated beyond ones physical power. It's not just about consequences, face it, we live in a world filled with ways to become instantly gratified. Some people change who they are to be accepted, even do things to get recognized... even it means bullying someone they feel is similar to themselves. Peer pressure - it goes a long way ..... even before words were ever exchanged.
I feel people take their own lives because they feel like they have no one who they can talk to, someone who they feel "cares" for them enough to justify their feelings a rewarded promise of solitude after, as they may have told someone, but it wasn't the person they wanted to tell or the response they were hoping for from them. But it's being able to take that step, that could have made the difference. When you are faced with such depression, and feel nobody can feel the pain you feel, you're alone. And nobody just comes out of it by themselves... it's usually a best friend that see's you struggling or acting not the same, who makes you come forth... maybe. And maybe it's a temporary solution... maybe feelings like that and things pass over time... no one really thinks people are going to take the matter in their own hands like that girl did. Having no personal content of what they call "support" in the family home, especially one that perhaps the girl felt might not have been her real home... a sense of insecurity because of being a foster child - feeling you don't belong in this world if the ones who were meant to love you didn't want you.... the skeletons in her closet... her battles, her demons... it could have been her breaking point. We all have faced pressure like this before, but maybe not in the same context. Regardless, there might have been things that only she knew...
How awful those people must feel... how dare they..
But violence doesn't solve anything, it just creates more violence. Hence why WAR can never be truly over, there is too much hatred on what lies behind power.
I think what people mean to say is to show you mean business, because we are animals, we have to "show" we are ready to stand our ground.... which decides what happens next. Yes, sometimes the taste of their own medicine does work... but it doesn't mean it works on every person you try it with. So how do you deal with it then when the rest of your world feels like its closing in on you..
It goes to show.. words are the most powerful weapons of this world... and if not chosen carefully, can become the end of yours too.
