A serious question for parents

[eddie102870]

so now he doesnt have to listen to his father b/c he lives with his mother. bs i have a 16 yr old that i havent talked to since feb. he has nothing to do with me. im pretty much in the same boat. i give him his space. he knows i love him. he also know where i live and my phone number hasn changed. i told him last time i talked to him its his move. id still make him play by my rules as long as he is in my house, period. tough love is exactly that fellas.

 

[JRSVIPR]

so now he doesnt have to listen to his father b/c he lives with his mother. bs i have a 16 yr old that i havent talked to since feb. he has nothing to do with me. im pretty much in the same boat. i give him his space. he knows i love him. he also know where i live and my phone number hasn changed. i told him last time i talked to him its his move. id still make him play by my rules as long as he is in my house, period. tough love is exactly that fellas.

Don't leave it up to him man,Call him and tell him you love him.:rock:

 

[eddie102870]

Don't leave it up to him man,Call him and tell him you love him.:rock:

i would but his mom doesnt have a phone i bought him minutes on a cell phone but she took it and used all the minutes. last time he was in town his older brother (who livess with me) tried to get him to come say hi to me and he said he didnt have anything to say to me. there's more to it but i dont need to get into it. ntwrk i understand completely dealing with a psycho bitch. my ex and me are the same way. hang in there bro. sad thing is the kid will pay for it later. at least he is passing school.

 

[ntw0rk]

He definitely knows that I love him, there's no problem there.

I call them, admittedly not as often as I could, or should, but they NEVER call me. And she could influence that, but won't.

She told me that he wants to spend time with me, not with a bunch of family that he doesn't know.
Sounds like a cop out....

 

[BurntRubber]

so now he doesnt have to listen to his father b/c he lives with his mother. bs i have a 16 yr old that i havent talked to since feb. he has nothing to do with me. im pretty much in the same boat. i give him his space. he knows i love him. he also know where i live and my phone number hasn changed. i told him last time i talked to him its his move. id still make him play by my rules as long as he is in my house, period. tough love is exactly that fellas.

Eddie, I don't know the situation. Just be the man and go see your son, even if he wants nothing to do with you. He is your son, what if God forbid something happens to him or you, you dont want to go out that way. Go see him give him a hug, if acts like a jerk...knock his ass out...then give him another hug

 

[eddie102870]

it is, id be damned it id let her tell me what i could do with my son in my own home. screwed up situation for sure. you have my sympathy bro. sincerely

 

[sleeper]

i would but his mom doesnt have a phone i bought him minutes on a cell phone but she took it and used all the minutes. last time he was in town his older brother (who livess with me) tried to get him to come say hi to me and he said he didnt have anything to say to me. there's more to it but i dont need to get into it. ntwrk i understand completely dealing with a psycho bitch. my ex and me are the same way. hang in there bro. sad thing is the kid will pay for it later. at least he is passing school.

IMO. If you can't call him. Use the USPS and send him letters to let him know your feelings. Its up to you to build a relationship with him. Make it happen. Your son needs you. I'm 43 and I still need my dad everyday.

 

[eddie102870]

Eddie, I don't know the situation. Just be the man and go see your son, even if he wants nothing to do with you. He is your son, what if God forbid something happens to him or you, you dont want to go out that way. Go see him give him a hug, if acts like a jerk...knock his ass out...then give him another hug

i think about that every day bro. been planning on it.

 

[eddie102870]

IMO. If you can't call him. Use the USPS and send him letters to let him know your feelings. Its up to you to build a relationship with him. Make it happen. Your son needs you. I'm 43 and I still need my dad everyday.

its a wierd situation. his mother has him to where he hates me and my family. ive tried for the last 4 years to communicate with him. ive even sat him down and tried to talk with him about it. along with my mother and father. hasnt done any good. we do communicate on myspace cause he lives in another city.

 

[JTS VENOM PERFORMANCE]

From my point of view there really couldnt be a better father than Eddie, I just wish I had a father like him growing up, unfortunatly he really does have a whacked out ex, thank god for Dawn:rock:

Ntwork, dude, I dont think there is a right or wrong here, your son is growing up, his mother is whacked and trying her best to get your son away from you.

Talk to your son like he is a man, which he thinks he is, tell him its just the right thing to do, but if its not his wish to go, then it will be on him years later.

Tell him family is a really important part of living,and growing, and later on he will understand this.

But if he is wanting to be a man, treat him as if he were one, I think thats all you can do at this point.

Good luck bud:rock:

 

[BurntRubber]

i think about that every day bro. been planning on it.

Just pull up in the truck and tell him your going for a ride...I know I couldn't resist

My hearts go out to both you guys...My girls are still young, just not looking foward to those teenage years.

 

[ntw0rk]

From my point of view there really couldnt be a better father than Eddie, I just wish I had a father like him growing up, unfortunatly he really does have a whacked out ex, thank god for Dawn:rock:

Ntwork, dude, I dont think there is a right or wrong here, your son is growing up, his mother is whacked and trying her best to get your son away from you.

Talk to your son like he is a man, which he thinks he is, tell him its just the right thing to do, but if its not his wish to go, then it will be on him years later.

Tell him family is a really important part of living,and growing, and later on he will understand this.

But if he is wanting to be a man, treat him as if he were one, I think thats all you can do at this point.

Good luck bud:rock:

Yeah, that's really all I have left now.
She has taken every thing else away from me.

Thank God for Alexis, she is the best! And has been ultra supportive through all of this.

I am just hoping that I can maintain the good relationship that I have with the twins.

I love my kids very much, and I know I am not the best dad there is, but I try.

 

[sleeper]

Just pull up in the truck and tell him your going for a ride...I know I couldn't resist

My hearts go out to both you guys...My girls are still young, just not looking foward to those teenage years.

lol Wait till all the guys start calling and coming around.lol

 

[JTS VENOM PERFORMANCE]

your a good man bro,:rock: thats all that matters

 

[ntw0rk]

your a good man bro,:rock: thats all that matters

Thanks Tony.

 

[Smokey]

believe me , I agree 100% with ya

do like my ol man did.... take his as# out behind the barn, beat the everlovin crap outta him, help him up, tell him ya love him, give him a big hug, knock his as# back to the ground

Respect

haha, my dad tried once....we were soo pissed at eachother for some stupid reason....couldnt knock me down tho.....i have the upmost respect for my old man

a boy with out a dad....is like a day without light.....moms arnt good at fishing

best of luck to you, hopefully your son will see the light

 

[flchub]

Your son is testing you ,with the help of his mother and her immediate family of course.

We can all talk about respecting our parents but there comes a time when the parent needs to take a step back and try and look through the eyes of their child.

How you decide to handle this will ultimately affect the relationship good or bad with your son.

In his eyes he feels like your new family is more important than he is,if he only gets to see u for a short time he will want to have alone time with you.

Its not really to say he doesnt want to meet these other relatives eventually.


HOW DO I KNOW THIS?

I'm the parent who has custody of his daughter,for the last 4 yrs my daughter would have the summers to spend with her mom and her new husband along with her new sister,she would always come home early due to a big fight with her mom and step dad.

The fights always involve lack of time spent alone with her mom,she has spent the last few years in conseling with her mother to vent her issues.

Maybe there is an agreement you and your son can come to concerning this maybe not,doesnt hurt to try at this point

 

[FATJACK]

Scott, you are a good person and you will win your sons respect in the long run. Right now he is heavily influenced by his vindictive mother. When he is a little older he will realize what you really mean to him.

Hell, my two new sons ,Jimi and Mark ,did not even drive across town to see me on my birthday!:dontknow:

 

[Wifey]

haha, my dad tried once....we were soo pissed at eachother for some stupid reason....couldnt knock me down tho.....i have the upmost respect for my old man

a boy with out a dad....is like a day without light.....moms arnt good at fishing

best of luck to you, hopefully your son will see the light

Maybe not, but some of em can shift :rock: :rock:

 

[Wifey]

If your son was taught respect by his mother, he would know he should go and visit his grandma and suck it up for the short time involved. He has the rest of his life to be selfish. Young people these days usually only think about themselves. His mother should be ashamed of herself

Hopefully he will do the right thing and go see his old gramma before she dies, I know I spent tons of time with both of mine while they were here I and will never regret one minute of it :rock: