What is your greatest regret in life?

[THEWELSHM]

I regret not going with all the gut feelings I ever have, they all panned out:argh: However as I say "any day above ground with the people you love is a good one"

"Life is a highway pick a lane"


thewelshm

 

[JTS VENOM PERFORMANCE]

This is kinda a cool thread silverback, but here is my take on regrets.


Regrets is the past, should I have some, yes, lost the absolute love of my life once, very regretful.
regret noe spending more time with my brother before he passed.
regret making too many mistakes here and there up and down.

but to me there is a problem with regrets, regrets have passed, cnat be changed.

I look at tommorrow, and what it could be, today I have an awesome wife, couple of goofy ass pups, a great mother in law and grandmother,
and some absolutely outstanding friends, most from this forum:rock:

so regrets? no, dont look into the past , look at how I can make tommorrow better, dwelving on regrets can bring sadness at times.
tommorrow if done correctly brings smiles

 

[mauiSRT/10]

I regret not going with my Brother to the Station that night.

I was gonna say something funny about past chicks but this post hit me.

I didnt have any brothers there or even know anybody there that nite.....but when the live news reports came on tv I sat there and watched for hours. It really effected me.

I am sorry for your loss Bob.

patrick

 

[TheSickness]

I regret not listening to my gut and just going down to visit my father the night before he killed himself I maybe could have done something...Maybe not. I regret he and I never got to fish the Salmon and Steelhead runs like we always talked about and planned before his heart surgery....So I take my son fishing every week no matter what I don't want him having that desire or expiriance never being met.....Lived in Washington for 12 years and never fished once

I regret the fact that I can no longer beat the shit outta people to channel my anger and get paid for it...I also regret that I never opened a book once in High school still graduated 2nd in my class with honors....If I applied myself I could have been anything I wanted to be.....Brain surgeon Lastly I regret the fact I am not in position to purchase Wify's truck I miss my truck everyday

 

[Prof]

I deeply regret not spending more quality time with my Father...he was a noble man, that loved me dearly...I was too focused on upward mobility and becoming successful...by the time I had achieved what I wanted...he was gone.

 

[includemeout]

I deeply regret not spending more quality time with my Father...he was a noble man, that loved me dearly...I was too focused on upward mobility and becoming successful...by the time I had achieved what I wanted...he was gone.

Harry Chapin - Cats in the cradle and silver spoon music video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=un2EfjEJAOA

Cats in the Cradle
by Harry Chapin

A child arrived just the other day,
He came to the world in the usual way.
But there were planes to catch, and bills to pay.
He learned to walk while I was away.
And he was talking 'fore I knew it, and as he grew,
He'd say, "I'm gonna be like you, dad.
You know I'm gonna be like you."

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon,
Little boy blue and the man in the moon.
"When you coming home, dad?" "I don't know when,
But we'll get together then.
You know we'll have a good time then."

My son turned ten just the other day.
He said, "Thanks for the ball, dad, come on let's play.
Can you teach me to throw?" I said, "Not today,
I got a lot to do." He said, "That's ok."
And he walked away, but his smile never dimmed,
Said, "I'm gonna be like him, yeah.
You know I'm gonna be like him."

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon,
Little boy blue and the man in the moon.
"When you coming home, dad?" "I don't know when,
But we'll get together then.
You know we'll have a good time then."

Well, he came from college just the other day,
So much like a man I just had to say,
"Son, I'm proud of you. Can you sit for a while?"
He shook his head, and he said with a smile,
"What I'd really like, dad, is to borrow the car keys.
See you later. Can I have them please?"

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon,
Little boy blue and the man in the moon.
"When you coming home, son?" "I don't know when,
But we'll get together then, dad.
You know we'll have a good time then."

I've long since retired and my son's moved away.
I called him up just the other day.
I said, "I'd like to see you if you don't mind."
He said, "I'd love to, dad, if I could find the time.
You see, my new job's a hassle, and the kid's got the flu,
But it's sure nice talking to you, dad.
It's been sure nice talking to you."
And as I hung up the phone, it occurred to me,
He'd grown up just like me.
My boy was just like me.

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon,
Little boy blue and the man in the moon.
"When you coming home, son?" "I don't know when,
But we'll get together then, dad.
You know we'll have a good time then."

 

[Voodoo]

And believe it or not, this is a serious question.

If there was one thing you would have done differently, what would it have been.

I know what mine is, but I'm going to wait a while before I tell what it was. Besides, it's time for bed. Have to work again tomorrow.

Racing the Baja 1000 kind of gets me down but by the time I decided to do it I was to old to do it and be real competitive. That is about it.

been there, done that is kind of my motto

 

[scottstoy]

Get me drunk at panama and i might tell them..

 

[Big Worm]

I think I should have had more 1 nighters with smokin hot women when I was single long ago and far away...

I like the way this man thinks.

 

[Big Worm]

I regret meeting my High School sweet heart, she just tore my heart out. I would have been so much further in my life if she would of never been apart of it, to this day I still HATE her. Oh, and I was a huge dick to my old girlfriend, I think she may have been the one that got away. She was wonderful, and I was a asshole that did not appreciate her. But, no she is gone and i will never see her again.

 

[Venom Power]

I regret meeting my High School sweet heart, she just tore my heart out. I would have been so much further in my life if she would of never been apart of it, to this day I still HATE her. Oh, and I was a huge dick to my old girlfriend, I think she may have been the one that got away. She was wonderful, and I was a asshole that did not appreciate her. But, no she is gone and i will never see her again.

Um, Worm? You need a cold beer man?

 

[BigRed460]

I think I kinda regret everything I have done since high school. I didn't know what I wanted and really didn't know who to listen to. To make a long story short, I had two choices; collage life on my own or corporate life with my family. The moment I bought my truck I knew which way I had chosen. I had the opportunity to forge my own path, make my own choices, and just plain live MY life the way I wanted. Instead I'm stuck somewhere I have no identity, no individuality, and no matter how hard I work everyone will always see me as someone that has had everything handed to them.

 

[belgiumbarry]

I deeply regret not spending more quality time with my Father...he was a noble man, that loved me dearly...I was too focused on upward mobility and becoming successful...by the time I had achieved what I wanted...he was gone.

same here.

 

[Prof]

same here.

Well we will just have to sit down with a bottle of scotch and talk...I will come to your house!

 

[VIPER]

i didnt bring it up bc i dont like to talk about, the most thing i regret in my life is not talkin to my DAD for 10 yrs, " from time i was a rotten teenager till i was 25 married, and working....

so here it goes, my last moments with my DAD

i invited my family over for thanksgivin dinner about 2.5 yrs now, my mother, father , 3 brothers and my sister, my sister brought her kids, well everhting was goiing ok, till we all sat down to eat, and as i had expline to my wife we all started fighting and bickering so load and mean to eachother to the point where my wife went up stairs to the beadroom cryin, well at this point i had enoff, thu my parents and brother/sister out of my house......

then i get a call one night ( 1 week from x-mas) from my mother, tell me my dad had a stroke at work......

i rush to the hostiptal as soon as i got word, by the time i got there, my father could not move the left side of his body... and the condition was gettin worst as the hr's went by, i started to think of the last words that me and father had and screaming and yelling and words that we were saying to eachother, and the last thought's i had of my dad, when i told them to get out of my house..........


my father pass'ed away dec 27 2006 of that yr, i never got to say to him i was sorry...

i am 28 now - and my GREATEST regret is, the way i treated my father, and now that he is gone i never got to tell him wat a jerk i was and that i am sorry, my dad left behind a 7yrs son 4 grown children, and my mother.


i often think of my dad, and the great times we had as i was a kid, him teachin me to draw, play the trumpet, swim, and fish ride a bike

but the time i thought of my dad the most is when my son was born, when i was drivin home to get a shower, i found myself crying as i was drivin wishing to god that my dad was there to see my son born....

 

[Prof]

i didnt bring it up bc i dont like to talk about, the most thing i regret in my life is not talkin to my DAD for 10 yrs, " from time i was a rotten teenager till i was 25 married, and working....

so here it goes, my last moments with my DAD

i invited my family over for thanksgivin dinner about 2.5 yrs now, my mother, father , 3 brothers and my sister, my sister brought her kids, well everhting was goiing ok, till we all sat down to eat, and as i had expline to my wife we all started fighting and bickering so load and mean to eachother to the point where my wife went up stairs to the beadroom cryin, well at this point i had enoff, thu my parents and brother/sister out of my house......

then i get a call one night ( 1 week from x-mas) from my mother, tell me my dad had a stroke at work......

i rush to the hostiptal as soon as i got word, by the time i got there, my father could not move the left side of his body... and the condition was gettin worst as the hr's went by, i started to think of the last words that me and father had and screaming and yelling and words that we were saying to eachother, and the last thought's i had of my dad, when i told them to get out of my house..........


my father pass'ed away dec 27 2006 of that yr, i never got to say to him i was sorry...

i am 28 now - and my GREATEST regret is, the way i treated my father, and now that he is gone i never got to tell him wat a jerk i was and that i am sorry, my dad left behind a 7yrs son 4 grown children, and my mother.


i often think of my dad, and the great times we had as i was a kid, him teachin me to draw, play the trumpet, swim, and fish ride a bike

but the time i thought of my dad the most is when my son was born, when i was drivin home to get a shower, i found myself crying as i was drivin wishing to god that my dad was there to see my son born....

He knows how you feel, and loves you even more now.

 

[VIPER]

He knows how you feel, and loves you even more now.

after the services, my mother sat me down and expliend how proud my dad was of me, when i completed basic traing
with the usmc, when i was discharged and come home. when i graduate college with a dregree in sience engineerng
when i got married, out of all his kids i the 1st to get married, my mom said he was proud of me, that on my way of life at
a young age i become a man. and turned out well......

it is hard to think of my father with out thinking of the last 11 yrs that me and my father spent, even tho we lived such distance
lives, he still knew EVERYTHING that i was doing, even tho he was just a phone call away.... and i never picked up the phone

i loved my father very much, i was just too bull headed to make the 1st move and break the barrier and speak to my dad


i am not close to any of my family, i have not spokin to my mother in over a Yr, my sister just got back in to town, and came to my
house i told her that she should have call'ed that i am on my way out... and my 2 older brother are drug abuser's..... and my little brother
i have not seen in a yr....

when i see my family they make me feel bad, about being me... it hard to expline but the best way i can discribe it is :

from the time i started workin i have never wanted for anything, i have busted my ass to get what i want....

i get up and go to work everyday, sometime 7 days a week..... i have a loving wife at home, even tho is hard to admit but i'd
fall apart with out her and i have a wonderful son.... that is growing up too fast

i dont do drugs, and i try to live my life to the fullest, i live each day like it my last

my family is the opposite


is it wrong of me not to want to fee bad that i am me ?

i guess i am selfish in a way, but dont get me wrong i have tryed to help my family but then alway go right back where they were b4
i helped them ....

i just dont know, but this how i feel when i think or talk about my my family...........

 

[Prof]

after the services, my mother sat me down and expliend how proud my dad was of me, when i completed basic traing
with the usmc, when i was discharged and come home. when i graduate college with a dregree in sience engineerng
when i got married, out of all his kids i the 1st to get married, my mom said he was proud of me, that on my way of life at
a young age i become a man. and turned out well......

it is hard to think of my father with out thinking of the last 11 yrs that me and my father spent, even tho we lived such distance
lives, he still knew EVERYTHING that i was doing, even tho he was just a phone call away.... and i never picked up the phone

i loved my father very much, i was just too bull headed to make the 1st move and break the barrier and speak to my dad


i am not close to any of my family, i have not spokin to my mother in over a Yr, my sister just got back in to town, and came to my
house i told her that she should have call'ed that i am on my way out... and my 2 older brother are drug abuser's..... and my little brother
i have not seen in a yr....

when i see my family they make me feel bad, about being me... it hard to expline but the best way i can discribe it is :

from the time i started workin i have never wanted for anything, i have busted my ass to get what i want....

i get up and go to work everyday, sometime 7 days a week..... i have a loving wife at home, even tho is hard to admit but i'd
fall apart with out her and i have a wonderful son.... that is growing up too fast

i dont do drugs, and i try to live my life to the fullest, i live each day like it my last

my family is the opposite


is it wrong of me not to want to fee bad that i am me ?

i guess i am selfish in a way, but dont get me wrong i have tryed to help my family but then alway go right back where they were b4
i helped them ....

i just dont know, but this how i feel when i think or talk about my my family...........

Over the years I have learned that it is best to just accept family for what they are, and not make judgments about what is right and wrong with their approach to life. It seems to work for me, and I think they are beginning to take the same approach.

Nice that you were willing to share your feelings with your virtual family...here at VTCOA.

 

[belgiumbarry]

Well we will just have to sit down with a bottle of scotch and talk...I will come to your house!

with pleasure Prof.... should you ever make a trip to Europe,you're welcome at our house and can stay as long you & wife wish.

You can even drive my SRT as you are familiar with the ROE blower

 

[Prof]

Don't be surprised, I intend to make the trip!